When Your Sex Drives Don't Match

Author: Sandra Pertot
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 1569242712
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 274

Book Description
- What libido type are you?: People have different sexual tastes and preferences, which, according to Dr. Sandra Pertot, can be traced to 10 basic libido types--each with a unique set of feelings, desires, and expressions. By learning to recognize them, couples can better understand and work through their sexual conflicts. - A complete guide to a mutually satisfying sexual relationship: Once couples have identified their libido types, Pertot offers useful ways to manage sexual incompatibilities and, in most cases, achieve a mutually satisfying sex life. Her clear advice emphasizes a combination of increased communication, understanding of differences, and building upon previously established aspects of the relationship. - Authoritative information based on more than thirty years of clinical expertise: Pertot was compelled to write this book because in over thirty years of experience counseling couples, she's found that mismatched libidos is one of the most common issues with which couples struggle. She's learned to recognize that most sexual problems are not the result of complicated psychological or relationship issues, but rather have completely sensible causes that can be identified and worked out.

Perfectly Normal

Author: Sandra Pertot
Publisher: Rodale
ISBN: 9781579548841
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 252

Book Description
A challenge to assumptions about sex in our society confronts the unrealistic expectations that leave many couples disappointed in their love lives, and explores a new view of sex in relationships that allows intimates to stop berating themselves over what they do not have. Original. 30,000 first printing.

Reclaiming Desire

Author: Andrew Goldstein
Publisher: Rodale Books
ISBN: 1605294934
Category : Health & Fitness
Languages : en
Pages : 338

Book Description
I'm so busy and tired, how can I find time for sex? How can I go from mommy one minute to passionate lover the next? What medicines or natural herbs can I take to improve my libido? At some point in their lives, most women experience a decline in their sexual desire. Yet despite the vast number of books devoted to sex, surprisingly few focus on the problem of low libido. Fewer still offer any practical advice to the woman who has lost her sex drive and longs to find it again. Reclaiming Desire presents the holistic approach that gynecologist Andrew Goldstein and clinical psychologist Marianne Brandon—co-founders of the Sexual Wellness Center in Annapolis, Maryland—use to successfully treat women with low libido. Capitalizing on their combined medical and psychological expertise, they reveal how a complex set of physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual factors—as well as specific life-changing events such as marriage, pregnancy, childbirth, divorce, and menopause—can affect female sex drive. Reading this book, women will come to understand that low libido isn't "all in their heads"—or all in their bodies, for that matter. The problem is real and it's diverse—but it's curable.

Why Good Sex Matters

Author: Nan Wise
Publisher: Harvest
ISBN: 1328451305
Category : Health & Fitness
Languages : en
Pages : 277

Book Description
A sex therapist and neuroscientist describes anhedonia, the inability to feel a satisfactory amount of pleasure--and provides the pathway back to fully enjoying sex, food, time with family and friends, and other pastimes, while also staving off depression, anxiety, and addiction. Assaulted with opportunities for pleasure everywhere--from sex to food or exotic escapes--our culture is becoming more depressed and anxious. Research has shown that many people are having less sex, and that those who do have a lot enjoy it less. For more than thirty years, Nan Wise has worked as a therapist helping people gain a satisfying sex life. In recent years, her work has shifted to the study of anhedonia--the inability to experience pleasure from activities usually found enjoyable--and why more people than ever suffer from it. In Why Good Sex Matters, Wise not only reveals the fundamental problem in how we think about sex and pleasure but also how we arrived at this problematic relationship to begin with. This fascinating book helps us reclaim our innate capacity for joy, fun, exuberance, curiosity, and humor, while showing how reaching our sexual potential makes us smarter, happier, and more productive people. Ultimately, it reveals how a new understanding of sex can lead to a more expansive experience of pleasure in all aspects of our lives.

Sex and the Enneagram

Author: Ann Gadd
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 162055884X
Category : Body, Mind & Spirit
Languages : en
Pages : 384

Book Description
Understanding your approach to dating, relationships, and sex through the lens of your Enneagram personality type • Explains the relationship and sexual differences in the 9 Enneagram personality types for both genders • Examines how we can create greater intimacy with our partners and what blocks our sexual enjoyment • Looks at each type’s fantasies and investigates how our behavior in relationships alters according to how emotionally integrated or disintegrated we are • Explores the three types of love and their countertypes; each type’s Enneagram Passions and Virtues in relation to intimacy; how to engage with each type; and whether some types make better lovers Sex can take us from the sacred sublime to the darkest aspects of humanity. It can carry us on the wings of pure pleasure, or crush and potentially destroy us. No act in the human experience, barring the essential survival needs of food and water, can have more of an effect on us. In Sex and the Enneagram, Ann Gadd explores relationships and sex through the lens of the Enneagram, its nine personality types, and the subtypes of the wings and Instinctual Triads. The author introduces the Enneagram system and provides a full chapter devoted to each type. She examines each type’s approach to sex, their fantasies, and levels of integration in relation to love and sex, as well as each type’s approach to issues such as pornography, sexual problems, and dating sites and whether some types make better lovers. The author explains the Enneagram Passions and Virtues of each type in relation to sex, divorce, wing influences, and gender and explains how the 27 Sub or Instinctual types and the Hornevian Triads of the Enneagram system affect our sexuality. Most importantly, Gadd looks at how we can heal ourselves sexually so we can create more fulfilling, transforming intimacy for ourselves and our partners. Through understanding ourselves and our partners sexually, with the help of the Enneagram, Gadd hopes to bring us to deeper levels of compassion and understanding for each other. Sex then can be an expression enhancing our love for each other, rather than simply a physical act. By understanding your own and your lover’s Enneagram type, intimate giving and receiving can be an empowering process to embody our love for ourselves and others.

Extraordinary Sex Now

Author: Sandra Scantling
Publisher: Harmony
ISBN: 0767905911
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 337

Book Description
Based on the advice she has provided throughout her twenty years of clinical practice as a sexual therapist, Dr. Sandra R. Scantling has written a new erotic guide to restoring the vital connections that bring couples together and make it possible for them to enjoy extraordinary sex. This is not a sex manual; it is a book about achieving true intimacy—both in and out of the bedroom. Through storytelling, anecdotes, and an easy-to-complete quiz, readers will learn to identify their own personalities and sexual styles—as well as those of their partners—and so to understand why they each behave as they do and—above all—how they can each modify their styles to achieve Extraordinary Sex Now. This is an inspirational, must-have guide for any couple seeking to rekindle their passion. Dr. Scantling proves that lovemaking need never grow dull—that it can be an ongoing, joyous event, now and for the rest of our lives.

Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?

Author: Joe Kort
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield
ISBN: 144222326X
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 241

Book Description
Jennifer can’t believe it. Just married and pregnant, she discovers that her husband has been meeting Brad for sex. When confronted, Tom doesn’t deny it, but he insists it’s just “a thing” and he isn’t gay. Elsewhere, John’s wife, Karen, discovers that her husband likes to watch gay porn. John doesn’t understand his wife’s reaction. Why does she care what he watches if he’s not unfaithful? In couple’s therapy, Karen and Jennifer raise the same questions: Does this mean my husband is gay? Can my marriage survive? These and other stories illustrate the difficulties inherent when a wife or girlfriend finds out her man has had or wants to have sexual contact with other men. But many times, the man is not gay or even bisexual. Of course, some men with gay sexual interests are gay men in a process of self-discovery; they are “coming out.” These desires may only reflect a different side of a man’s sexuality or some response to childhood trauma or experiences they have not fully processed. Here Joe Kort and Alexander P. Morgan make the distinction between gay men and “straight men with gay interests” clearer to women who want to know how they can overcome these revelations. The authors explain the many reasons why straight men may be drawn to gay sex; how to tell whether a man is gay, straight, or bisexual; and what the various options are for these couples, who can often go on to have very fulfilling marriages. Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bi? is intended to help couples understand how male sexuality can express itself in ways that may be difficult to understand. Many marriages have been hurriedly terminated when couples (and their therapists) have lacked the information they needed to understand their current situations. This book provides the clarity, describes the choices, and (in many cases) offers hope for relationships and marriages that have been brushed off as doomed.

Coming Home to Passion

Author: Ruth Cohn
Publisher: Praeger
ISBN: 0313392129
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description
This book offers a detailed road map for overcoming sexual and relationship impasses originating from painful childhood experiences. Large numbers of adults with histories of childhood trauma and neglect suffer persistent relationship and sexual difficulties. Unfortunately, most have failed to receive adequate help with emerging from these deep and complex problems. Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples with Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect explores the enduring impacts—physiological, psychological, and behavioral—of childhood trauma and neglect. Author Ruth Cohn, drawing on 25 years of experience working with trauma survivors and their partners and families, lays out a practical and actionable course for recovery in clear, accessible language. This book provides direction and hope to those with trauma backgrounds while also serving as a unique resource for professional readers. Integrating in-depth information on attachment and relationship, trauma and neglect, and sexuality, Cohn details a practical, hands-on treatment approach for revitalizing love, health, and passion.

Be Happily Married

Author: Abby Medcalf
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781792075148
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 160

Book Description
ARE YOU READY TO? Feel Closer and More Connected to Your Partner? Stop Having the Same Argument Over and Over? Be Happier and Finally Make Changes that Stick? It's not too late. You can reclaim your relationship AND your happiness. You just need to have the right tools to finally make it happen. Over the last 30 years I've helped thousands of people like you create connection and happiness in their relationships. Combining my hands-on experience and the latest research, I've created a proven system to transform any relationship into a connected, communication machine. My goal is, above all, to provide practical, usable tools that WORK -- not unproven ideas or pie-in-the-sky theories that sound good but do little to help you in your day-to-day life. You can create the relationship of your dreams, even if you're partner won't do a thing! In this book, you'll learn: The secret to why your past attempts at change haven't lasted. Effective tools to get your relationship unstuck, quickly and easily. How small, simple steps can get you BIG results, no matter how long you've struggled. The keys to creating a happy and connected relationship. The level of happiness in your life is DIRECTLY related to the level of happiness in your relationship. This is the last relationship book you'll ever have to read because I'll show you exactly how to get there.

Sex Drive

Author: Bella Ellwood-Clayton
Publisher: Allen & Unwin
ISBN: 1742696333
Category : Health & Fitness
Languages : en
Pages : 334

Book Description
When it comes to women's priorities, is sex on top? Lack of libido is women's most common sexual problem and once in a secure relationship, women's sex drive begins to plummet. Exploring what our libido is and why it is being depleted, sexual anthropologist Dr Bella Ellwood-Clayton argues that women don't want sex because they don't feel sexy. At a time when women's libidos are being threatened by the wider forces of media, marketing and medication and our increasingly pressured lives, who can blame them? With increasing numbers of women with low libido being diagnosed as 'sexually dysfunctional', the race to create a 'pink Viagra' is on. But do we have unrealistic expectations about our sex drive? Who defines what is normal and abnormal? And could 'low libido' in fact be the natural order of things? Provocative, authoritative and engaging, Sex Drive: In pursuit of female desire is both fascinating reading and a book that is creating passionate debate.