The Anger Trap

Author: Les Carter
Publisher: Jossey-Bass
ISBN: 9780787968793
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description
It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don't seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond, choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health? The Anger Trap is a landmark book that strips away the myths and misconceptions about anger and reveals how you can learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger so that you may choose—or help someone else to choose—a better, more spiritually enlightened path. The Anger Trap examines the root causes of anger and can help you realize your patterns and break the destructive cycles of criticism, frustration, and irritation that hurt you and others around you. Drawing insight from timeless spiritual wisdom as well as cutting-edge research, Dr. Carter offers practical techniques to free you from anger, its hidden insecurities, fears, and selfishness and thereby improve the quality of your home and workplace life. The book clearly illustrates how the change process works and The Anger Trap is filled with real-life examples of the ways people have come to terms with their anger by applying the concepts Dr. Carter outlines.

Enough About You, Let's Talk About Me

Author: Les Carter
Publisher: John Wiley & Sons
ISBN: 0470185147
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 215

Book Description
Those who are in the unenviable position of living or working with a narcissist have learned by sad trial and error that they are the only one in the relationship who can change the dynamic. Certainly narcissists don’t think they need to change. Enough About You, Let’s Talk About Me is a hands-on resource for helping colleagues, families, and spouses deal with people who exhibit narcissistic tendencies by learning how to change their own attitudes and responses.

Letting Go of Anger

Author: Ronald Potter-Efron
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608824276
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 200

Book Description
A Guide to Healthy Anger Expression How do you express your anger? Do you blow up? Quietly seethe? Or do you try to pretend that you're really not angry at all and just hope the feelings will go away? Most of us express anger in more than one way, but we also tend to be creatures of habit, falling back on a few predictable styles when we feel angry. Unfortunately, while some styles are appropriate in some situations, others are not—and consistently using an inappropriate style is a sure way to find yourself saddled with a huge anger problem. This book examines the eleven most common styles of anger expression and helps you learn how to communicate your anger in healthy ways. Learn which anger styles work for different situations—and which ones lead to certain disaster. Find out how to become more flexible and creative at expressing your anger. Once you understand the whole range of anger styles, you'll be able to better manage angry feelings and use your anger as a positive force for building a better life.

The Anger Trap

Author: Les Carter
Publisher: Jossey-Bass
ISBN: 9780787968809
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 0

When Pleasing You Is Killing Me

Author: Les Carter
Publisher: Bookbaby
ISBN: 9781543935127
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description
While people pleasers can be some of the nicest people you'll meet, they have an uncanny knack for finding themselves in relationships with controllers. Knowing how pleasers are motivated by duty and obligation, the controllers will persuade, cajole, argue, and convince, knowing they can erode the resolve of the pleaser rather quickly. This, of course, leaves the pleaser with residual feelings of hurt, anxiety, and resentment. Because pleasers are not as skilled in the art of coercion as the controller, they can collapse in feelings of futility. In the book, When Pleasing You Is Killing Me, Dr. Les Carter explains how the pleaser can become freed from futility by choosing to stay out of the controller's power games altogether. Drawing upon decades of counseling with a wide array of frustrated nice people, Dr. Carter gives sound direction to those seeking to reclaim their true selves. Relationship boundaries are explained, assertiveness is taught, and insights are offered as the reader is guided into a paradigm shift regarding the ways to respond to a controller.

The Cow in the Parking Lot

Author: Leonard Scheff
Publisher: Workman Publishing
ISBN: 0761158154
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 210

Book Description
Uses simple Buddhist principles an easily understandable way, this book may help readers replace the anger in their lives with a newfound contentment.

The Choosing to Forgive Workbook

Author: Les Carter
Publisher: Harperchristian Resources
ISBN: 9780785282556
Category : Christian life
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description
As a continuation of "The Anger Workbook", the authors profess the necessity for forgiveness after anger. This workbook allows readers to personalize the information and develop a plan that will lead to read results and lasting healing.

The Anger Workbook

Author: Les Carter
Publisher: HarperChristian Resources
ISBN: 1401675441
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 257

Book Description
A field guide to understanding and managing anger--what it is, where it comes from, and how to get it under control. Many people assume that anger is the emotion that leads to raised voices and violence, and this kind of explosive rage is certainly a reality. But there are many different types of anger, from the simmering to the shutting down. Most of us experience some form of anger or its effects. The good news is that anger can be controlled. Founded on thirteen faith-based steps designed to recognize and manage anger, The Anger Workbook is an interactive guide to transforming patterns and behaviors with the help of biblical principles and evidence-based treatment. Best-selling author and practicing counselor Les Carter, Ph.D. and author and Christian psychiatrist Frank Minirth, M.D. draw on their years of experience and expertise to demystify the problem of anger. Throughout this workbook, you will learn: How to identify situational anger in yourself or others as well as patterns of relating, thinking, and behaving that may lead to feelings of anger How emotions like fear, loneliness, and inferiority create anger How to uncover and eliminate myths that perpetuate anger such as, "Letting go of my anger means I am conceding defeat." Or "No one understand my unique problems." For parents: how to manage a child's anger As we get to know and understand anger--whether it's our own or a loved one's--its management becomes far less daunting. Anger can be controlled.

Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men

Author: Thomas J. Harbin
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 0738234796
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 298

Book Description
A revised and updated edition of the popular self-help book for men that addresses contemporary issues and how they impact the way men deal with anger Men tend to express their anger differently than women do. Research shows men are often more violent and less willing to confront and deal with their emotions than women. Written by a psychologist who specializes in the treatment of male rage, Beyond Anger shows the angry--and miserable--man how to change his life and relationships for the better. This book helps men understand their anger by explaining what the specific symptoms of chronic anger are and by showing angry men how their actions negatively affect family, friends, and coworkers. It helps men control violent feelings by using simple exercises--developed especially for men--to identify when and why anger occurs and by helping them form new habits to prevent anger before it starts. Women, too, will learn essential strategies for understanding and helping the angry men in their lives. Beyond Anger is honest, tough, and real. In this revised edition, Harbin will update references throughout and discuss new topics such as the role of the internet and social media in fueling anger and how to protect yourself against these pitfalls, as well as a discussion on anger and aging, the political landscape and anger, PTSD, a brand-new section on preventing relapse into anger, and many other relevant, timely topics.

Why Does He Do That?

Author: Lundy Bancroft
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 9780425191651
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 436

Book Description
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health