Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

Author: Tracy Schorn
Publisher: Running Press Adult
ISBN: 0762459050
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 240

Book Description
Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

Affair Healing

Author: Tim Tedder
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780997801880
Category :
Languages : en
Pages :

Book Description

Cheating in a Nutshell

Author: Wayne Mitchell
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781948158039
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 224

Book Description
Spoiler Alert: This book is not for cheaters. Cheating in a Nutshell is for people who were cheated on in a romantic relationship. The reaction to being cheated on is universal. In this book Wayne & Tamara Mitchell give the longer explanation each victim deserves.

Cheatingland

Author: Anonymous
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476705844
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 256

Book Description
Reminiscent of Three Women and The State of Affairs—and based on years of research and in-depth interviews with more than sixty men—this eye-opening and explosive study explores why men cheat, how they do it, and the repercussions that infidelity has on every aspect of life. It is estimated that one in four married men cheat on their wives. Of those, roughly half claim that they are “very happy” in their marriages. So why risk ruining it all? Is it the sex? The affirmation? The danger? Yes, it’s all of that. But it’s also so much more. The author of this book has conducted a series of in-depth interviews with men and women of all ages and backgrounds who have cheated in the past or are currently cheating on their spouses. They talked openly and intimately about details of their affairs, and the emotions that they experience before, during, and after. The book breaks down the five major categories of cheaters, defines the typical cheater personality, and looks at how husbands can cheat while also loving their wives. It reveals the tips and tricks spouses use to get away with secret affairs and examines everything from the influence of cheating parents on their children to the possible outcomes once an affair is discovered. This unfiltered window into the hearts and minds of men explores the psychological roots of cheating and proposes a new vision of masculinity that is more emotionally aware and could significantly change relationships for the better.

Runaway Husbands

Author: Vikki Stark
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781988498010
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description
Based on a study of over 400 women worldwide, Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal, is the first book to explore and offer healing strategies to women whose lives have been turned upside down by Wife Abandonment Syndrome. This Revised and Updated edition expands on the groundbreaking first edition that led to the development of an amazing global community of women working together to recover from Wife Abandonment Syndrome - when a husband leaves out-of-the-blue from what his wife believed to be a happy, secure marriage. Following his sudden departure, he typically replaces the caring he'd previously shown her with blame and anger, leaving his bewildered wife totally devastated. The Revised and Updated edition includes new chapters that discuss the husband's possible Covert Narcissism, the effect of this kind of divorce on the father/adult child relationship and the challenges of co-parenting with an ex following abandonment. Written by family therapist Vikki Stark, MSW, who herself had a runaway husband, the book helps women understand in full what could motivate a loving husband to morph overnight into an uncaring stranger and provides them with the tools they need to move forward and rebuild their lives.

Summary of Tracy Schorn's Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

Author: Everest Media,
Publisher: Everest Media LLC
ISBN: 1669364143
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 43

Book Description
Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The chump is the dullard whose inadequacies drove the cheater into another’s arms. The chump is the co-conspirator who Must Have Known and had some tacit arrangement with the cheater. The chump is the failure who wasn’t meeting the cheater’s needs. #2 You don’t deserve to be cheated on. It’s not your fault that your partner is unhappy. The choices your cheater makes are 100 percent their own. #3 Chump blame is the act of trivializing the pain and suffering that comes from being cheated on. It faults trusting and believing in the commitments made to you, and it makes you feel foolish for having loved someone so unrequitedly. #4 The majority of infidelity resources promote the idea that you can save your marriage alone. They ignore the fact that many therapists still don’t understand how personality disorders affect relationships.

The State of Affairs

Author: Esther Perel
Publisher: HarperCollins
ISBN: 0062322605
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 321

Book Description
"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

Divorced Girl Smiling

Author: Jackie Pilossoph
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781311023445
Category :
Languages : en
Pages :

Book Description
Smile! It's not just the end of your marriage, it's the beginning of your second chance!Missy Benson has a two and a half carat diamond engagement ring with color grade H, VS2 clarity and a value of $36,000. It's absolutely gorgeous, practically flawless, and let's be honest, really big!But what the successful Chicago realtor doesn't have anymore is a husband. After 12 years of marriage, her husband, Paul, a handsome, wealthy attorney has devastated her by breaking up their marriage for Priscilla Sommerfeld, a young, personal trainer, who according to Missy's sassy assistant, J.J., looks more like a Las Vegas stripper than a fitness expert.Not sure what to do with her ring, and with no financial issues to worry about, Missy decides to put it up for sale on Craigslist. The price: 99 cents! The catch: She gets to pick the buyer. In essence, she's looking for the perfect guy, but not for herself. Her hope is to regain faith that good men do exist, and that marriages can last forever.Now referring to herself as "the divorced girl," Missy interviews dozens of young men who are vying for the huge ring. It's a contest that includes outrageous characters, hilarious and sentimental stories, and two finalists, both of whom Missy adores and who she must choose between. Then there's Parker Missoni, the sexiest contestant by far, who drives her crazy with his brutal honesty, and at the same time stops her heart with his deep brown eyes.Divorced Girl Smiling is the story of a woman's journey to do whatever it takes to heal herself from divorce. It's about acceptance, reflection, taking accountability for mistakes, and appreciating all of life's wonderful gifts. In other words, if you have the guts to put the past behind, admit your mistakes, embrace your future, and give love another chance, you will surely be a divorced girl smiling.

Planet Heartbreak

Author: Vikki Stark
Publisher: Green Light Press
ISBN: 9780986472183
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 262

Book Description
Planet Heartbreak is a compilation of sixty-two stories written by women who have experienced Wife Abandonment Syndrome - when a husband leaves what his wife believed to be a happy marriage without ever having told her that he was unhappy or thinking of leaving. He often directly moves in with an affair partner, leaving his traumatized wife totally devastated. This will undoubtedly be the defining event in her life, and although recovery is a struggle, many women find that it forces them to reinvent themselves in positive and exciting new ways. The spellbinding short stories in Planet Heartbreak describe how the wife found out that her husband was leaving and outlines the events around his departure but, more importantly, explores the emotional process the woman goes through integrating the fact that her life as she knew it, as if hit by a tsunami, was suddenly over. Written by women at varying lengths of time since the husband left, from two months to fifteen years, the storytellers vividly express their shock and heartbreak, but also offer insight, provide strategies for recovery, share their wisdom, and inspire the reader to keep reaching to love life again. The book is edited by Vikki Stark, family therapist known worldwide as a divorce recovery expert, and author of Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal, the companion volume to Planet Heartbreak. Runaway Husbands is the bible for wives who have experienced abandonment, providing a deep understanding of Wife Abandonment Syndrome and detailed strategies to help women rebuild their lives. The website associated with the book has become the place women meet to encourage each other and help them feel that they are not crazy and not alone. The stories in Planet Heartbreak are written by women from this community.

Cheated On

Author: David Derksen
Publisher: Divorce Minister
ISBN: 9781732954113
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 112

Book Description
Cheated on? Abused? Abandoned? Divorced? Overwhelmed by religious rules and condemnation about how you are to handle these relationship traumas? This book is for you.Written by a Yale-educated, Board Certified Chaplain (BCC) who survived his first wife's adultery, a divorce, and an ecclesiastical trial to keep his ministerial credentials, Divorce Minister is here to help you navigate the trouble waters of infidelity discovery and keep your faith.Testimonials: "The Christian world is theologically bankrupt in its teachings on divorce, infidelity, abandonment, and abuse. 'Don't divorce, ever, for any reason, ' false teachers insist, and so they ensnare the abused and condemn survivors who had the courage to leave their abusers. Divorce Minister adeptly dismantles Christian false teachings on divorce with compassionate, biblical truth. A much-needed voice." - Bridget Jack Jeffries, Weighted Glory (www.weighted-glory.com/)"Having led divorce recovery groups in churches for many years I appreciate the unique insight and potential for healing DM brings to the victims of adultery. He deftly dissects 'The Shared Responsibility Lie' to provide a path towards healing for faithful spouses. DM's work has helped me personally and made me more effective as a divorce recovery leader. Highly recommended for pastors, lay leaders and men and women struggling with the conflicting messages they receive about adultery." -Loren Haas, lay leader at CrossWalk Community Church, Napa, CA"Divorce Minister has a unique voice in the infidelity discourse - he's the rare evangelical Christian who actually believes cheating is the sin, not divorce. If you're looking for a theological perspective to leave an abusive relationship, if you seek judgement of wrong-doing, and comfort from victim-blaming, Divorce Minister is your man. This is important work. God bless David Derksen for taking it on." -Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) blogger at chumplady.com and author of Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide