Arousal

Author: Michael J. Bader
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 9780312302429
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 308

Book Description
Sexual fantasies. Everyone has them, but no one knows what they mean. People are curious about and often confused by the things that arouse them, yet they are often too ashamed to reveal their most private fantasies to their partners or even their therapists. In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader offers a groundbreaking new theory of sexual desire, one that will liberate men and women and enable them to better understand their sexual preferences. Drawing on his twenty-five years as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Bader demonstrates that rather than being programmed by biology or society, sexual fantasies and preferences are really psychological antidotes to unconscious dangers. Armed with this novel theory, men and women will no longer need to feel ashamed about what arouses them or confused about what arouses others. Dr. Bader sensitively tells the stories of his patients and explains the meaning of their sexual fantasies. In terms refreshingly free of jargon, he reveals how his profound new theory can be used to decipher a wide variety of sexual fantasies and behavior, ranging from ordinary preferences about positions in bed to flamboyant scenarios worthy of the Marquis de Sade. And yet, Dr. Bader's exciting new theory transcends the realm of individual psychology. Readers will come away with a radically new understanding of such issues as sexual chemistry and boredom, cybersex, pornography, and the differences in how men and women get excited. Both erudite and accessible, Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies is an important landmark in the literature of sexuality.

Arousal

Author: Michael J. Bader
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 1466838957
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 308

Arousal

Author: Michael Bader
Publisher: Random House
ISBN: 0753507390
Category : Sex (Psychology)
Languages : en
Pages : 274

Book Description
Most people know what their sexual fantasies are but few of us have an insight into why they work. In this groundbreaking exploration of the libido, Dr Michael Bader draws on 25 years experience as a psychotherapist to offer a new theory of sexual desire: that our sexual imaginations are a 'portable first-aid kit for our psyches'. His analysis - that our fantasies are neither kinky nor perverse, but dependent on a need for psychological safety - enables us to understand the complex dynamics that determine our sexual preferences. Dr Bader uses case studies from his own practice to build up a convincing argument that our fantasies - from the conventional to the seemingly bizarre - work as an antidote to the non-sexual fears and anxieties each of us carries over from childhood. Bader's non-judgemental findings are revelatory and empowering, bringing fresh thinking to a subject we smugly thought we had finished analysing. Arousal enables both female and male readers to understand their own and their partner's sexual desires. It offers radical ideas about sexual chemistry and explores the different ways in which men and women get excited. Both accessible and enlightening, Arousal is an important, jargon-free landmark in sexual psychology that is invaluable to anyone interested in human relationships.

Male Sexuality

Author: Michael J. Bader
Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers
ISBN: 9780742560697
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 174

Book Description
At first glance the sexual male seems easy to understand, but beneath the surface lie complexities that disrupt lives and relationships. Respected psychologist Michael Bader takes an honest look at the nuances of male sexuality, addressing issues such as sexual boredom, internet sex, and sexual fantasies that can leave women bewildered and men ashamed. Illustrated with engaging examples from his practice, Male Sexuality gives readers, both women and men, deeper understanding of male behavior. Through increased awareness of the psychology behind the sex, Bader aims to enhance individual self-esteem and improve communication in relationships.

Private Thoughts

Author: Wendy Maltz
Publisher: New World Library
ISBN: 1608682129
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 219

Book Description
Private Thoughts provides more than just these women’s fantasies, however. It combines new research with the advice of a seasoned sex therapist. The result is an exciting contribution to the field of sexuality. Drawing insights from Wendy’s research and advice from her clinical experience as a sex therapist, the book gently guides women to explore their own fantasy style and to recognize the origins of their fantasies. It gives women permission to enjoy their fantasies while also helping them to recognize how some fantasies may be masking emotional pain, which could be detrimental to them and to their relationships.

Tell Me What You Want

Author: Justin J. Lehmiller
Publisher: Robinson
ISBN: 9781472142221
Category : Health & Fitness
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description

In the Garden of Desire

Author: Wendy Maltz
Publisher: Broadway
ISBN: 9780767901611
Category : Sexual fantasies
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description
Delving into the uncharted territory of women's sexual imaginations, acclaimed sex expert Wendy Maltz and journalist Suzie Boss expand the boundaries of what we know about female desire and satisfaction. Drawing on intimate interviews with women of all ages and lifestyles, Maltz and Boss take readers on a journey of passion, pleasure, and self-discovery as they: Describe the origins of women's sexual fantasies Identify the six most common fantasy roles--the Pretty Maiden, the Victim, the Wild Woman, the Dominatrix, the Beloved, and the Voyeur Illuminate the diverse functions of sexual fantasies from stimulating orgasm to improving one's self-image Help women discover their own fantasy style and change unwanted fantasies Offer advice on how and when to talk about one's fantasies with one's partner In this candid and inspiring book, women--and their lovers--will learn how to use the power of their imaginations to heighten sexual expression and self-awareness and achieve new levels of intimacy.

He Comes Next

Author: Ian Kerner
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 006174655X
Category : Health & Fitness
Languages : en
Pages : 0

Book Description
Transform Yourself from "Passion Victim" to Passionista! In the smash hit She Comes First, Ian Kerner singlehandedly waged battle against male sexual "ill-cliteracy," and women everywhere benefited from his "viva la vulva" philosophy of female pleasure. Now, in Passionista, it's time to learn all about what turns men on—and makes them stay on. In this point-by-point, "blow-by-blow" guide, Kerner makes giving as much fun as receiving as he covers every angle of male sexuality, unlocks the secrets of satisfaction, and offers knowledgeable answers to the questions every woman wonders about. His advice is the closest you'll ever come to waking up in a guy's skin and knowing what truly makes him sexually tick. Written in the same witty, insightful, and utterly readable voice that has made She Comes First and Be Honest—You're Not That Into Him Either so popular, Passionista is the empowered woman's guide to enjoying sex to the fullest—and ensuring that he does the same.

Why Women Have Sex

Author: Cindy M. Meston
Publisher: Macmillan
ISBN: 1429955228
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 336

Book Description
An unparalleled exploration of the mysteries underlying women's sexuality that rivals the culture-shifting Kinsey Report, from two of America's leading research psychologists Do women have sex simply to reproduce or display their affection? When University of Texas at Austin clinical psychologist Cindy M. Meston and evolutionary psychologist David M. Buss joined forces to investigate the underlying sexual motivations of women, what they found astonished them. Through the voices of real women, Meston and Buss reveal the motivations that guide women's sexual decisions and explain the deep-seated psychology and biology that often unwittingly drive women's desires—sometimes in pursuit of health or pleasure, or sometimes for darker, disturbing reasons that a woman may not fully recognize. Drawing on more than a thousand intensive interviews conducted solely for the book, as well as their pioneering research on physiological response and evolutionary emotions, Why Women Have Sex uncovers an amazingly complex and nuanced portrait of female sexuality. They delve into the use of sex as a defensive tactic against a mate's infidelity (protection), as a ploy to boost self-confidence (status), as a barter for gifts or household chores (resource acquisition), or as a cure for a migraine headache (medication). Why Women Have Sex stands as the richest and deepest psychological understanding of female sexuality yet achieved and promises to inform every woman's (and her partner's) awareness of her relationship to sex and her sexuality.

Madonna/Whore Complex: Love Without Sex; Sex Without Love

Author: Pat Gaudette
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780982561775
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 132

Book Description
For Some Men, Love and Sex Do Not Go Together There are many names for it: Madonna/Whore Complex; Madonna-Whore Syndrome; Virgin/Whore Complex; Prostitute-Versus-Madonna Syndrome; Virgin-Prostitute Syndrome; Pedestal/Gutter Syndrome; Madonna-Whore Dichotomy; Virgin-Madonna-Whore Complex; Madonna vs. Harlot; Obscenity-Purity Complex; Good Girl-Bad Girl Dichotomy. Regardless of the name, it refers to the male sexual dysfunction in which some men believe that sex is a dirty act that is only enjoyed by "bad" women-whores. For these men, all women are divided into two very different groups: the whores/prostitutes/harlots, women who are easily seduced and who enjoy the dirty act of sex; and the Madonnas/virgins-as in the Virgin Mary-pure women of virtue who would never enjoy sex and who should not be degraded by the sex act. These men, who love their wives too much to have sex with them, marry virgins but save their passion for whores. For a woman brought up believing "good girls don't," marriage is supposed to be when "good girls do." She may link marriage, love, and sex together but marriage to a man with the Madonna/Whore Complex will be essentially sexless. A man diagnosed with the Madonna/Whore Complex does not want to have a wife "who is a lady in public and a whore in the bedroom." He expects his wife to be a lady in public and in private. He does not want her to be sexually aggressive or act whorish (in his opinion). He wants her to be pure in mind and body, virginal in every way. For him, love does not equal sex nor does sex equal love. Table of Contents: Introduction The Madonna/Whore Complex Warning Signs The Virginity Issue The Making of a Madonna Wife Is He or Isn't He? The Wives and Girlfriends The Husbands and Boyfriends Can the Madonna/Whore Complex Be Cured? The Dark Side of the Madonna/Whore Complex Sources