The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection

Author: Rokelle Lerner
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 075739776X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 295

Book Description
In her latest book, relationship expert Rokelle Lerner, tackles the innerworkings of narcissism and offers compassionate and realistic advice for surviving a relationship with those afflicted with this personality disorder. A Narcissist can make life exhilaratingly exciting one minute, and shear hell the next. A narcissist has no qualms about taking another's money, love, admiration, body or soul to satisfy their unquenchable hunger. They are not inherently evil, but unfortunately their wounds compel them to act in ways that are sometimes unconscionable, damaging, and ultimately tragic. Whether a mother-in-law, friend, coworker or boss, sometimes it's impossible to avoid narcissists, so instead of being miserable or taken advantage of, Rokelle Lerner shares her insights on the dynamics behind this personality disorder to give readers the tools to cope with narcissists, including: Learning to see narcissists as they see themselves Creating defense factors to ward them off Maintaining a balanced relationship based on mutual love, not one-sided narcissism

The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection

Author: Rokelle Lerner
Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.
ISBN: 075730768X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 290

Book Description
How to Manage the Narcissistic People in Your Life Does your boss constantly blame you for things you didn't do? Do you isolate yourself from friends and family to avoid conflict at home? Do you feel anxious when you see a certain 'friend's' name on your cell phone? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you most likely have a narcissist in your life. The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection will help you understand the complexities of this disorder and arm you with the coping mechanisms to navigate through this type of relationship. Narcissists suffer from a personality disorder that began in the early stages of childhood. They are stuck in an early development stage where there is tremendous self-interest, excessive self-absorption, and extreme entitlement. Their behavior is a consequence of early childhood abandonment and abuse. Rokelle Lerner specializes in working with narcissists and the people they impact. Her astounding results in improving the quality of life for those that live or work with narcissists has been recognized by therapists across the country. She explains why narcissists do the things they do and how you can protect yourself from their intimidation and manipulations. Lerner shows you how to: Spot a narcissist at work and in your personal life Set appropriate boundaries to avoid further conflict Avoid antagonizing a narcissist at work or at home Narcissists are disarming, manipulative, and mesmerizing by nature. The Object of My Affection is in My Reflection will help you see through their charm so you can recharge your spirit, redefine your purpose, and regain your life.

Why Is It Always About You?

Author: Sandy Hotchkiss
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1439106533
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 216

Book Description
In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists

Author: Eleanor D. Payson
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780972072830
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 187

Book Description
One of the most significant but least understood of character disorders in individuals is narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD. In this book, a licensed marital and family therapist provides a much-needed overview of NPD, its wide-ranging effects, and guidelines for dealing with this disorder.

Reflection

Author: Diane Chamberlain
Publisher: Diane Chamberlain
ISBN: 0988205726
Category : Drama
Languages : en
Pages : 467

Book Description
Rachel Huber returns to her hometown of Reflection to care for her ailing grandmother. Twenty years ago, a tragedy occurred in Reflection and people hold Rachel responsible. Now she finds herself the object of anger and hostility. She's not without her allies, however. Lily Jackson, a young woman who was personally touched by the tragedy, perplexes everyone by treating Rachel with compassion. And Michael Stoltz, the minister of the Mennonite church, is elated by Rachel's return. He and Rachel were close friends as children, and that childhood bond quickly evolves into a loving relationship that must be hidden from the town. It is Rachel's grandmother, Helen, however, who becomes her strongest advocate, surprising Rachel with her wise counsel and rare strength--and with a wealth of secrets she has long been concealing. "Diane Chamberlain's finest work to date. . . The reader is swept into the town's emotion and suspense." --Richmond Times Dispatch.

The Cost of Knowing

Author: Brittney Morris
Publisher: Simon & Schuster Books for Young Readers
ISBN: 1534445455
Category : Young Adult Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 336

Book Description
Dear Martin meets They Both Die at the End in this gripping, evocative novel about a Black teen who has the power to see into the future, whose life turns upside down when he foresees his younger brother’s imminent death, from the acclaimed author of SLAY. Sixteen-year-old Alex Rufus is trying his best. He tries to be the best employee he can be at the local ice cream shop; the best boyfriend he can be to his amazing girlfriend, Talia; the best protector he can be over his little brother, Isaiah. But as much as Alex tries, he often comes up short. It’s hard to for him to be present when every time he touches an object or person, Alex sees into its future. When he touches a scoop, he has a vision of him using it to scoop ice cream. When he touches his car, he sees it years from now, totaled and underwater. When he touches Talia, he sees them at the precipice of breaking up, and that terrifies him. Alex feels these visions are a curse, distracting him, making him anxious and unable to live an ordinary life. And when Alex touches a photo that gives him a vision of his brother’s imminent death, everything changes. With Alex now in a race against time, death, and circumstances, he and Isaiah must grapple with their past, their future, and what it means to be a young Black man in America in the present.

Objects of Our Affection

Author: Lisa Tracy
Publisher: Bantam Dell Publishing Group
ISBN: 0553807269
Category : Antiques & Collectibles
Languages : en
Pages : 233

Book Description
Recounts how the author and her sisters inherited furniture and other artifacts collected over the course of centuries by ancestors including several who served in the military, describing the stories behind various pieces of interest and what they revealed about past family members.

Stop Walking on Eggshells

Author: Paul T. T. Mason
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1684036917
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 254

Book Description
Isn’t it time you stopped walking on eggshells? Learn how with this fully revised and updated third edition of a self-help classic—now with more than one million copies sold! Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are ‘walking on eggshells’ to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is ‘yes,’ someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD)—a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life. This compassionate guide will enable you to: Make sense out of the chaos Stand up for yourself and assert your needs Defuse arguments and conflicts Protect yourself and others from violent behavior If you’re ready to bring peace and stability back into your life, this time-tested guide will show you how, one confident step at a time.

Recovery Zone Volume 2

Author: Patrick Carnes
Publisher: eBookIt.com
ISBN: 0983271321
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 306

Book Description
The process of therapy and treatment means stepping into an unfamiliar, new world with very different perspectives, processes and even its own language at ties. The goal of this extraordinary world is to repair, restructure, and build the internal structures to cope with losses, trauma, dysfunction, toxic stress, and addiction. The first of the Recovery Zone series focuses on the often painful and difficult internal tasks for that transition. This first book in the series by Patrick Carnes is already regarded as a classic and has been a durable best seller for the past decade. The second volume is now here, and Dr. Carnes helps with the issue of "now that I know all of this, what do I do?" How to translate the inner transformation into my everyday world? I have discovered the real "me" but what does that mean for me to integrate ideas and skills with my relationships, work, values, lifestyle -- and be happy? Much has been written about overcoming trauma, grief, dysfunctional relationships and the sinkholes of the various addictions. The sequel of Recovery Zone provides real answers about how to stay in the zone when traumatic events, toxic stress, and easy access to escape surrounds you. The goal must be an "Ultimate To Do List" so you do not miss out on the life you want and feel a genuine call to do. Core to this platform is a resilience built on ten master skills and thirty operational strategies that users describing as "defining" passage into a new life. The joke about life being what happens when you are on the way to do something else, has little reality at the end of this second volume. Dr. Carnes is widely known for his personal sharing, his warm and engaging stories, and his ability to weave complex science into something that everyone can use. These materials have evolved with the help of over two thousand therapists and the experiences of many thousands of patients. Another vintage of classic Carnes's writing.

Overcoming Perfectionism

Author: Ann W. Smith
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0757317219
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 163

Book Description
Anything worth doing is worth doing well. Practice makes perfect. Winning isn't everything, it's the only thing. Failure is not an option. In today's perfection-obsessed culture, these are the maxims we live by. Yet, the damage that they cause is stifling. Renowned author and pioneer of codependency treatment Ann W. Smith knows this first hand. Smith has dealt with her fair share of perfectionism and has bared witness to this all too common phenomenon in her professional life, having spent the last thirty years studying the impact compulsive disorders have on individuals and family. While perfectionism lacks much of the stigma attached to today's most common compulsions—smoking, gambling, sex addiction, alcoholism, and drug abuse—many of the negative connotations on self and the family system are the same. Psychological and physical implications include: Headaches Isolation Anxiety attacks Fear of failure Sleep disturbances Digestive problems Back pain Overeating Sexual dysfunction Depression Suicidal thoughts or tendencies An inability to establish proper boundaries Overly critical of others The need to be in control Excessive guilt and shame In this revised and updated edition of the original, groundbreaking book Overcoming Perfectionism: The Key to a Balanced Recovery, Smith describes the key differences between overt and covert perfectionism; the role early attachment, temperament, sibling relationships, and life circumstances play in developing this pattern; and how to shift toward a center of balance for a more fulfilling life. Readers will learn how to identify and confront the root cause of their problem, how to reveal and accept their essence, and finally, they will learn the importance of forgiveness and letting go. Additionally, readers discover the key characteristics of a healthy family system, along with the single most important lesson of all—perfection does not exist.