Listen Like You Mean It

Author: Ximena Vengoechea
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 0593087062
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 337

Book Description
“Full of revealing, instantly applicable ideas for leveraging your strengths and overcoming your weaknesses.” —Adam Grant, author of Think Again and Originals, and host of the TED podcast WorkLife For many of us, listening is simply something we do on autopilot. We hear just enough of what others say to get our work done, maintain friendships, and be polite with our neighbors. But we miss crucial opportunities to go deeper—to give and receive honest feedback, to make connections that will endure for the long haul, and to discover who people truly are at their core. Fortunately, listening can be improved—and Ximena Vengoechea can show you how. In Listen Like You Mean It, she offers an essential listening guide for our times, revealing tried-and-true strategies honed in her own research sessions and drawn from interviews with marriage counselors, podcast hosts, life coaches, journalists, filmmakers, and other listening experts. Through Vengoechea’s set of scripts, key questions, exercises, and illustrations, you’ll learn to: • Quickly build rapport with strangers • Ask the right questions to deepen a conversation • Pause at the right time to encourage vulnerability • Navigate a conversation that’s gone off the rails Now more than ever, we need to feel heard, connected, and understood in a world that keeps turning up the volume. Warm, funny, and immensely practical, this book shows you how.

Say What You Mean

Author: Oren Jay Sofer
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 161180583X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 306

Book Description
Find your voice, speak your truth, listen deeply—a guide to having more meaningful and mindful conversations through nonviolent communication We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating. The techniques in Say What You Mean will help you to: • Feel confident during conversation • Stay focused on what really matters in an interaction • Listen for the authentic concerns behind what others say • Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations • Find nourishment in day-to-day interactions “Unconscious patterns of communication create separation not only in our personal lives, they also perpetuate patterns of misunderstanding and violence that pervade our world. With clarity and great insight, Oren Jay Sofer offers teachings and practices that train us to speak and listen with presence, courage, and an open heart.” —Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

You're Not Listening

Author: Kate Murphy
Publisher: Celadon Books
ISBN: 1250297206
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 304

Book Description
When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? "If you’re like most people, you don’t listen as often or as well as you’d like. There’s no one better qualified than a talented journalist to introduce you to the right mindset and skillset—and this book does it with science and humor." -Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take **Hand picked by Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Cain, and Daniel Pink for Next Big Ideas Club** "An essential book for our times." -Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We’re not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here. In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It’s time to stop talking and start listening.

In My Heart

Author: Jo Witek
Publisher: Abrams
ISBN: 164700828X
Category : Juvenile Fiction
Languages : en
Pages : 32

Book Description
Celebrate feelings in all their shapes and sizes in this New York Times bestselling picture book from the Growing Hearts series! Happiness, sadness, bravery, anger, shyness . . . our hearts can feel so many feelings! Some make us feel as light as a balloon, others as heavy as an elephant. In My Heart explores a full range of emotions, describing how they feel physically, inside, with language that is lyrical but also direct to empower readers to practice articulating and identifying their own emotions. With whimsical illustrations and an irresistible die-cut heart that extends through each spread, this gorgeously packaged and unique feelings book is sure to become a storytime favorite.

Loving Like You Mean It

Author: Ronald J. Frederick
Publisher: Central Recovery Press
ISBN: 1942094957
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 210

Book Description
A 2019 Nautilus Silver Book Award Winner You can't fix what you don't see. But with awareness and the right tools, real change can and does happen. No matter how hard we try, many of us struggle to make love work with our partners. The problem, as clinical psychologist Dr. Ron Frederick explains, is that our brains are running on outdated software. Without us knowing it, our early relationship programming causes us to fear being more emotionally present and authentic with our partners—precisely what’s needed to build loving connections. But we don’t have to remain prisoners to our past. Grounded in cutting-edge neuroscience and attachment theory, Loving Like You Mean It shares a proven four-step approach to use emotional mindfulness to break free from old habits, befriend your emotional experience, and develop new ways of relating. The capacity for deep, loving connections is inside all of us, waiting to come out. By practicing the science behind loving like you mean it, your relationships can be fuller and richer than you ever imagined.

Listen, Learn, Love

Author: Susie Albert Miller
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 1631951300
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 115

Book Description
“Full of insights and lessons you can use throughout your life—especially in challenging times—to create and enjoy better relationships.” —Sarah Beckman, author of Hope in Hard Places Listen, Learn, Love shows those who are feeling overwhelmed, bored, frustrated, stressed, or lonely with the people closest to them how to make changes for the better quickly—even if the other person isn’t willing or engaged. It is a user-friendly guide filled with practical suggestions and simple skills anyone can use to create better relationships. And who doesn’t have at least one relationship in their life they would like to be better? While wanting a good relationship is a great beginning, building great relationships takes a few skills. Listen, Learn, Love is packed with concise and actionable tips shared with clarity, humor and authenticity, and shows readers how to dramatically improve their relationships in thirty days or less. “Susie Miller gets to the heart of what makes relationships thrive in all the messiness and stress of life. This book is a treasure that you can read in a couple hours but that will benefit you for the rest of your life.” —Brian D. McLaren, author of Faith After Doubt “Every once in a while a fresh voice arrives on the scene that cuts through the jargon and meets us right where we are. Susie Miller is exactly that! Her sage advice and authentic, upbeat style had me hooked from page one. Listen, Love, Learn is for everyone who longs for those deep, abiding relationships that make life meaningful.” —Ann Vertel, PhD, author of Take Charge of Your Confidence

Just Listen

Author: Mark Goulston
Publisher: AMACOM
ISBN: 081443648X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 272

Book Description
Getting through to someone is a critical, fine art. Whether you are dealing with a harried colleague, a stressed-out client, or an insecure spouse, things will go from bad to worse if you can't break through emotional barricades and get your message thoroughly communicated and registered. Drawing on his experience as a psychiatrist, business consultant, and coach, author Mark Goulston combines his background with the latest scientific research to help you turn the “impossible” and “unreachable” people in their lives into allies, devoted customers, loyal colleagues, and lifetime friends. In Just Listen, Goulston provides simple yet powerful techniques you can use to really get through to people including how to: make a powerful and positive first impression; listen effectively; make even a total stranger (potential client) feel understood; talk an angry or aggressive person away from an instinctual, unproductive reaction and toward a more rational mindset; and achieve buy-in--the linchpin of all persuasion, negotiation, and sales. Whether they're coworkers, friends, strangers, or enemies, the first make-or-break step in persuading anyone to do anything is getting them to hear you out. The invaluable principles in Just Listen will get you through that first tough step with anyone. With this groundbreaking book, you will be able to master the fine but critical art of effective communication.

Why Should I Listen?

Author: Claire Llewellyn
Publisher: Wayland
ISBN: 9780750232937
Category : Awareness
Languages : en
Pages : 32

Book Description
The boy at the centre of this book finds it hard to listen, and consequently gets into all sorts of trouble, such as getting lost in a museum and having to wear a really embarrassing pair of swimming trunks at a friend's party. However, he feels lonely and invisible when no one listens to him, so now he makes an extra special effort to listen, and finds that sometimes listening can bring nice things, such as ice cream!

The Lost Art of Listening

Author: Michael P. Nichols
Publisher: Guilford Publications
ISBN: 1462545890
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 378

Book Description
"That isn't what I meant!" Truly listening and being heard is far from simple, even between people who care about each other. This perennial bestseller--now revised and updated for the digital age--analyzes how any conversation can go off the rails and provides essential skills for building mutual understanding. Thoughtful, witty, and empathic, the book is filled with vivid stories of couples, coworkers, friends, and family working through tough emotions and navigating differences of all kinds. Learn ways you can: *Hear what people mean, not just what they say. *Share a difference of opinion without sounding dismissive. *Encourage uncommunicative people to open up. *Make sure both sides get heard in heated discussions. *Get through to someone who never seems to listen. *Ask for support without getting unwanted advice. *Reduce miscommunication in texts and online. From renowned therapist Michael P. Nichols and new coauthor Martha B. Straus, the third edition reflects the huge impact of technology and social media on relationships, and gives advice for talking to loved ones across social and political divides

How to Listen with Intention: The Foundation of True Connection, Communication, and Relationships

Author: Patrick King
Publisher: PKCS Media
ISBN:
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 198

Book Description
Learn to connect, create rapport, develop trust, and build deep relationships. In this day and age, the art of deep listening is a superpower. If you can make someone feel heard and important, you are on the highway to their heart. And it’s not as difficult or complex as you think. How to go from stranger to cherished friend in record time. How to Listen with Intention is ultimately a book about relationships. A relationship must be give-and-take - are you taking more than you are giving? Are you making people feel comfortable opening up to you? Are you listening well, or unwittingly being a conversational/relationship narcissist? It’s time to ask these difficult questions and learn the skills to not only help people in times of need, but create new friendships with just about anyone -- after all, who doesn’t like to be heard? Increase your emotional intelligence and people analyzing skills. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real-life experience. Understand people two levels beneath their actual words. --The most damaging mindsets for listening. --How we are all biologically programmed to be terrible listeners, and we have no idea about it. --The one person you should emulate for better listening. --How listening styles, frames, and levels can help you - and how you are not even close to what you think you are. --The concept of active, reflective listening, and why it’s so tough. --Reading people, emotional intelligence, and empathy. Become the most trusted ally and source of comfort and understanding.