Children of the Aging Self-Absorbed

Author: Nina W Brown
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1626252068
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 177

Book Description
Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions. As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent. In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time. Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.

Children of the Self-Absorbed

Author: Nina W Brown
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 1608820645
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 266

Book Description
Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child's growth and development. But what happens when this isn't the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent. Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent's problem. You'll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you'll discover that you're not helpless against your parent's behavior and that you needn't consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.

Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent

Author: Grace Lebow
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0062111965
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 297

Book Description
Do You Have An Aging Parent Who -- Blames you for everything that goes wrong? Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time? Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined? Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you? Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration. For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Author: Lindsay C. Gibson
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
ISBN: 162625172X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 284

Book Description
Now a New York Times bestseller! If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory

Why Is It Always About You?

Author: Sandy Hotchkiss
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1439106533
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 216

Book Description
In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.

Aging Thoughtfully

Author: Martha Craven Nussbaum
Publisher: Oxford University Press
ISBN: 0190600233
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 265

Book Description
"Features dueling essays by leading figures in philosophy, law, and economics; each essay employs a wealth of fictional and real world examples to address the topic of aging; covers a wide range of questions that confront one facing the last third of life"--Publisher's website

Will I Ever be Good Enough?

Author: Karyl McBride
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1416551328
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 275

Book Description
The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.

Doing the Right Thing

Author: Roberta Satow, Ph.D.
Publisher: Penguin
ISBN: 1101098821
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 289

Book Description
Now in paperback, one of the first books to help navigate the profound emotional challenges of caring for elderly parents in a strained parent-child relationship.

Beyond Motherhood

Author: Jeanne Safer
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0671793446
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 212

Book Description
Women from all over the country share their experiences and offer insights into what it is like not having children, and describe what factors helped shape their decision to remain childless.

Narcissistic Fathers

Author: Caroline Walton
Publisher: Charlie Creative Lab
ISBN: 9781801186957
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 132

Book Description
Do you think your father might be toxic? Still struggling from the effects of narcissistic abusive parenting? If yes, keep reading... The accredited family therapist Caroline Walton will accompany you on a recovery journey to heal your emotional wound, break anxiety and recover your sense of self. A narcissistic father can be defined as a parent who lives on control, on ego. He is possessive and lives in the competition. Typically, the narcissistic father perceives a child's independence as a threat and forces him or her to live in the shadow of himself. In a narcissistic parental relationship, the child is rarely loved for who he is, and is afraid to open up to others about the parent's behavior. Getting out of codependence is not easy, but it is necessary to regain control of our lives. But how to do it? This book is written precisely for that. As children, we were not responsible for what happened to us, but as adults, we are accountable for our recovery. If we were marked by the experience with our family of origin, it doesn't mean that we have to be conditioned forever by the scars that our parents gave us. Through this life-changing book, you will learn: The definition of narcissism and an outline of narcissistic traits. Why a narcissistic father tend to abuse their children Why it is hard to leave a narcissistic father in your life. How to promote recovery from narcissistic abuse Activities recommended for regaining your feeling of control. And much more... I can't promise you that reading to this book will be a "total cure." However, I can promise that if you apply yourself diligently, read and re-read the chapters, follow all instructions to the letter, with a tenacious resolve to get better, you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours. You should see huge improvements within the early three days. This is not hype; This is what my audience commonly report. Seeing is believing. Are you ready? Order now to get started.