How to Communicate Like a Buddhist

Author: Cynthia Kane
Publisher: Hierophant Publishing
ISBN: 1938289528
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 176

Book Description
An Instruction Manual for Clear Communication The most well known Buddhist teachers on the planet all have something in common: they are excellent communicators. This is not by accident, as the Buddha taught what are called the four elements of right speech over 2,600 years ago. In this one-of-a-kind book, certified meditation and mindfulness instructor Cynthia Kane has taken the four elements of right speech and developed them into a modern practice based on mindful listening, mindful speech, and mindful silence. Beginning with an illuminating self-test to assess your current communication style, this book will take you through the author's own five-step practice that is designed to help you: Listen to yourself (your internal and external words) Listen to others Speak consciously, concisely, and clearly Regard silence as a part of speech Meditate to enhance your communication skills If you have ever felt misheard, have trouble stating how you feel, or long to have more meaningful and genuine conversations, this book can help. The simple steps outlined in this book will have a huge effect on how you communicate with others and yourself. Communication is essential to being human, and when you become better at it, your personal truth becomes clearer, your relationships improve, and the result is that you experience more peace and harmony in your life. Fans of Thich Nhat Hanh will appreciate the simple, clear instructions for how to transform everyday communication into “right speech.”

Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist

Author: Cynthia Kane
Publisher: Hierophant Publishing
ISBN: 1938289714
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 176

Book Description
Change Your Words, Change Your World There are hundreds of books, workshops, and classes that teach us how to communicate effectively with others, but very few of us pay attention to how we speak to ourselves. Best-selling author and communication expert Cynthia Kane believes this is a problem, and she is sounding the alarm! Kane writes that there is an unreported epidemic of negative self-talk in our culture today. Many of us speak to ourselves in demeaning and hurtful ways, using language we would never use with anyone else. To make matters worse, we often don’t even realize when we are doing this, as these old mental tapes play in repeating loops without our awareness. In Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist, certified mindfulness and meditation instructor Cynthia Kane introduces the Middle Path of Self-Communication, which consists of five mindful practices—Listen, Explore, Question, Release, and Balance—all of which are grounded in Buddhist principles. This book will show you how to: Identify your negative self-talk and explore the underlying self-judgments that produce it Release the judgments that are poisoning your self-communication Practice a system of balanced internal communication based on truth and compassion When we speak to ourselves negatively, we set a tone for our day and our interactions with others in the world. Talk to Yourself Like a Buddhist can teach you how to turn off the enemy in your mind—and create a new relationship with yourself and the world around you—simply by noticing, investigating, and changing the words you use to speak to yourself.

Say What You Mean

Author: Oren Jay Sofer
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 161180583X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 306

Book Description
Find your voice, speak your truth, listen deeply—a guide to having more meaningful and mindful conversations through nonviolent communication We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating. The techniques in Say What You Mean will help you to: • Feel confident during conversation • Stay focused on what really matters in an interaction • Listen for the authentic concerns behind what others say • Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations • Find nourishment in day-to-day interactions “Unconscious patterns of communication create separation not only in our personal lives, they also perpetuate patterns of misunderstanding and violence that pervade our world. With clarity and great insight, Oren Jay Sofer offers teachings and practices that train us to speak and listen with presence, courage, and an open heart.” —Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

The Art of Communicating

Author: Thich Nhat Hanh
Publisher: Harper Collins
ISBN: 0062224689
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 80

Book Description
Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh, bestselling author of Peace is Every Step and one of the most respected and celebrated religious leaders in the world, delivers a powerful path to happiness through mastering life's most important skill. How do we say what we mean in a way that the other person can really hear? How can we listen with compassion and understanding? Communication fuels the ties that bind, whether in relationships, business, or everyday interactions. Most of us, however, have never been taught the fundamental skills of communication—or how to best represent our true selves. Effective communication is as important to our well-being and happiness as the food we put into our bodies. It can be either healthy (and nourishing) or toxic (and destructive). In this precise and practical guide, Zen master and Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh reveals how to listen mindfully and express your fullest and most authentic self. With examples from his work with couples, families, and international conflicts, The Art of Communicating helps us move beyond the perils and frustrations of misrepresentation and misunderstanding to learn the listening and speaking skills that will forever change how we experience and impact the world.

The Five Keys to Mindful Communication

Author: Susan Gillis Chapman
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
ISBN: 0834827794
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 227

Book Description
Good communiation is essential to any healthy relationship, whether it's between spouses, family members, friends, or co-workers. In this book Susan Chapman, a marriage and family therapist and a longtime meditation teacher, explains how mindfulness can be brought to bear in the way we speak and listen to each other so that we can strengthen our connections and better accomplish our goals. Drawing on Buddhist principles and on her training as a psychotherapist, Chapman explains how the practice of mindfulness—learning to become fully present in the moment—makes it possible for us to listen more deeply to others and to develop greater clarity and confidence about how to respond. Chapman highlights five key elements of mindful communication: silence, mirroring, encouraging, discerning, and responding, and she dedicates a chapter of the book to each. Other topics include identifying your communication patterns and habits; uncovering the hidden fears that often sabotage communication; staying open in the midst of difficult conversations so that we can respond wisely and skillfully; and learning how mindful communication can help us to become more truthful, compassionate, and flexible in our relationships.

How to Meditate Like a Buddhist

Author: Cynthia Kane
Publisher:
ISBN: 1950253007
Category : Body, Mind & Spirit
Languages : en
Pages : 178

Book Description
While most of us have heard about the mental and physical benefits of meditation, beginning a regular practice can sometimes seem more daunting than training for a marathon. Maybe you're curious about meditation but don't know where or how to start, or perhaps you've tried it but weren't able to stick with it. If this describes you, then How to Meditate Like a Buddhist is the perfect place to begin. In this compact and powerful book, author and certified meditation instructor Cynthia Kane demystifies this ancient practice while gently guiding you through everything you need to know about posture, breathing, mind-set, and more. Informed by her own years of practice, Kane has distilled the most important aspects of Buddhist meditation in one accessible guide. Read this book and start taking advantage of meditation's incredible benefits today

How to Communicate Like a Buddhist

Author: Cynthia Kane
Publisher: Red Wheel/Weiser
ISBN: 193828951X
Category : Body, Mind & Spirit
Languages : en
Pages : 178

Book Description
After the sudden death of a friend, Cynthia Kane realized that life is too short to waste time being misunderstood, misheard, and misrepresenting her needs and desires, and that life could be richer and more satisfying if she was able to communicate with a greater level of kindness, clarity, and awareness. Kane's book, based on Buddhism's Four Elements of Right Speech, is a simple and practical guide for learning communication skills that inevitably result in better relationships, enhanced self-esteem, and conscious living. The 5 steps for communicating like the Buddha are: Listen to yourself. Speak consciously, concisely, and clearly. Listen to others. Regard silence as a part of speech. Meditate. When followed, these steps will result in an awareness of what is being communicated to others and to oneself (truths or untruths), an understanding of how best to speak to others, more effective listening skills, and the ability to know how and when to effectively use silence. In short, this approach results in a satisfying and mindful life.

What Would Buddha Say?

Author: Barbara Ann Kipfer
Publisher:
ISBN: 9781458793973
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 234

Book Description
Weve all said things we lived to regret. But what if we communicated mindfully instead, stopping first to consider how our words might hurt rather than help - or if we need to voice them at all? In What Would Buddha Say?, best - selling author Barbara Ann Kipfer offers 1,501 reminders for staying on the path of positive communication. Based on ancient Buddhist teachings, this portable guide will provide inspiration and tips on how to speak clearly, truthfully, and with lovingkindness. In our modern world, it seems were always in a hurry - usually running on autopilot, and all too quick to make that comment or send that message. But when we communicate without first considering the impact it may have - especially if its idle gossip or false speech - we can create unnecessary conflicts and far - reaching negative consequences. With poor communication at the heart of most misunderstandings and arguments, learning to practice mindful communication, including good listening skills, is key to speaking - or not speaking - with better results in every area of your life. In What Would Buddha Say?, youll find hundreds of instantly accessible and compulsively readable communication tips on giving thoughtful attention to your words so youre more likely to be understood, and less likely to damage your relationships. Based on the concept of Right Speech, an important element of Buddhisms Noble Eightfold Path, these mindful essentials - inspirational quotes and sayings, short essays, and meditation suggestions - will guide you away from harmful speech and into a state of mindfulness from which you can gently speak your truth. There is always room for improvement in terms of communication, and with practice, we can learn to speak mindfully - to say only what is beneficial and true with a kind heart at the right time. Packed with Buddhist wisdom and full of inspiration, What Would Buddha Say? will help you maximize the good in your speech as you take steps toward a more peaceful way of being.

Secular Buddhism

Author: Noah Rasheta
Publisher: Blurb
ISBN: 9781366922731
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 114

Book Description
In this simple yet important book, Noah Rasheta takes profound Buddhist concepts and makes them easy to understand for anyone trying to become a better whatever-they-already-are.

Heart Radical

Author: Anne Liu Kellor
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1647421748
Category : Biography & Autobiography
Languages : en
Pages : 272

Book Description
Wanting to understand how her path is tied to her mother tongue, Anne, a young, multiracial American woman, travels through China, the country of her mother’s birth. Along the way, she tries on different roles—seeker, teacher, student, girlfriend, artist, and daughter—and continually asks herself: Why do I feel called to make this journey? Whether witnessing a Tibetan sky burial, teaching English at a university in Chengdu, visiting her grandmother in LA, or falling in love with a Chinese painter, Anne is always in pursuit of intimacy with others, even as she is all too aware of her silences and separation. For two years, she settles into a comfortable routine in her boyfriend’s apartment and regains fluency in Chinese, a language she spoke as a young child but has used less and less as an adult. Eventually, however, her desire to know herself in other ways surfaces again. She misses speaking English, she feels suffocated by urban, polluted China, and she starts to fall for another man. Ultimately, Anne realizes that to live her truth as a mixed-race, bilingual woman she must embrace all of her influences and layers. In a world that often wants us to choose a side or fit an ideal, she learns that she can both belong and not belong wherever she is, and that home is ultimately found within.