People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1441239626
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 214

Book Description
Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes they seem like they're on a mission to make us miserable! There's always that one person. The one who hijacks your emotions and makes you crazy. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If you could just "fix" that person, everything would be better. But we can't fix other people--we can only make choices about ourselves. In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows readers that they don't have to be victims of other people's craziness. With commonsense wisdom and practical advice that can be implemented immediately, Bechtle gives readers a proven strategy to handle crazy people. More than just offering a set of techniques, Bechtle offers a new perspective that will change readers' lives as they deal with those difficult people who just won't go away.

The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Revell
ISBN: 1493428926
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 224

Book Description
We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear--Start putting your own needs first!-- doesn't work, because we do love helping other people! Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are--it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.

Evangelism for the Rest of Us

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1441202722
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 160

Book Description
The most common methods of evangelism are tailor-made for extroverts. But what about the rest of us? Other Christians, including introverted, reflective people, are left with feelings of guilt and fear and the desire to become more outgoing. The problem, says Mike Bechtle, is not their personality, but that they've been taught methods of evangelism that push them too far out of their comfort zone. In Evangelism for the Rest of Us, Bechtle shows readers how to share their faith in more comfortable ways by helping them discover and define their unique strengths within their personality type. With fresh, biblical insight, this much-needed resource renews a passion for sharing Christ with others, because telling the Good News does not have to be so intimidating.

Dealing with the Elephant in the Room

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Revell
ISBN: 1493410768
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 236

Book Description
Most people want to avoid tough conversations. Whether it's with a spouse, a friend, a boss, a coworker, or a child, tough conversations create high anxiety--and often lingering resentments. Communication expert Dr. Mike Bechtle offers practical help. He equips readers with the skills they need in order to handle conflict with the important people in their lives. Readers learn to be better prepared for hard conversations by learning to listen, to give and receive genuine feedback, and to saturate relationships with kindness. With the right skills and tools, anyone can feel more confident handling the elephant in the room and other conversational quicksand.

Talking to 'Crazy'

Author: Mark Goulston
Publisher: AMACOM
ISBN: 0814439594
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 273

Book Description
No matter how hard you try to reason with irrational people, it never works. So how do you talk to someone who just won't listen? You can't win by ignoring the insanity, and you can't argue it away. However, you can stop it cold. Top-ranked psychiatrist and communication expert Mark Goulston shows you just how to do so in this life-changing book for everyone trapped in maddening personal or professional relationships. Goulston unlocks the mysteries of the irrational mind, and explains how faulty thinking patterns develop. His keen insights are matched by a set of counterintuitive strategies proven to defuse crazy behavior, along with scripts, examples, and exercises that teach you how to use them. In Talking to “Crazy”, you will learn: Why people act the way they do How instinctive responses can exacerbate the situation, and what to do instead When to confront a problem and when to walk away How to activate the Sanity Cycle, which quickly transforms you from threat to ally How to use 14 simple yet effective communication techniques, including assertive submission flattery, the kiss-off, and more You can't reason with unreasonable people, but you can reach them. Talking to “Crazy” shows you just how easy it is to do it.

Living Successfully with Screwed-Up People

Author: Elizabeth B. Brown
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1441207368
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 256

Book Description
Unfortunately, the world is full of screwed-up people. But the good news, says Elizabeth Brown, is that your world no longer has to revolve around them. With brilliant insights and a keen sense of humor, this trusted author and sought-after speaker shows readers how to: • stop the power of whatever is eating them alive • productively respond when confronted • remain poised and in control when everyone around them loses it • win fairly in unfair battles • let go of what has been, or what they wish would be, and live triumphantly now Dozens of real-life success stories, brief diagnostic tests, and practical tools are included to help readers assess their own situations and gain confidence to change self-defeating behaviors. This popular word-of-mouth bestseller now has an updated look.

How to Communicate with Confidence

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1441242953
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 128

Book Description
Communication is an art, and anyone--whether shy or outgoing--can improve his or her conversational skills. How to Communicate with Confidence is a straightforward guide to making good conversation that works in any situation--and works for any personality type. Highlighting the art of give and take and stressing the importance of listening, this book gives confidence to those who hesitate to strike up a conversation. Author Mike Bechtle shows readers that they don't have to have a stockpile of great stories to tell in order to make good conversation. Instead, he encourages an "explorer" mind-set and gives readers the tools they need to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere.

Relationship Goals Challenge

Author: Michael Todd
Publisher: WaterBrook
ISBN: 0593192621
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 162

Book Description
ECPA BESTSELLER • Based on the #1 New York Times bestseller Relationship Goals and the author’s wildly popular sermon series, this 30-day challenge helps you take your relationship from good to great! Feeling tired of romantic relationships with no purpose—or looking to put more spark in your long-term love? Pastor Michael Todd draws on the themes of Relationship Goals to give you a month of biblically rich “let’s go deeper” challenges designed just for couples. We’re not talking simple date ideas or tips on what flowers to buy. We’re talking daily Scripture, intentional questions, and victorious outcomes as you get real about seeking God’s goals for you individually and together. As Michael looks at three key values of romantic relationships—purpose, healing, and oneness—he helps you find answers to questions like these: • How can we communicate with greater intentionality? • How does our relationship affect who we’re becoming as individuals? • How are we going to fight well, with our greater purpose in mind? • How do we find healing for deep-seated issues? • How do our spiritual lives affect our life as a couple? Take the next thirty days to create new habits that will set you down solidly on the road to meeting your relationship goals. At the end of this month-long challenge, you can look back on the goals you’ve already met and set new ones to look forward to. So get ready to win in relationship . . . together. Do you accept the challenge?

What Was He Thinking?

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Baker Books
ISBN: 1493430041
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 193

Book Description
Relationship and communication expert Mike Bechtle offers women an insider's guide to the puzzling male brain. Simple and practical, this book provides women with a roadmap for better conversations and improved relationships. Bechtle explains how men think, act, communicate, and grow in relationships, and even offers tips for communicating in a toxic relationship. Wives, girlfriends, mothers, daughters, friends, and coworkers will find real help within these pages.

It's Better to Bite Your Tongue Than Eat Your Words

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle
Publisher: Revell
ISBN: 1493434284
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 139

Book Description
Ever come away from a conversation wishing you'd said something differently, something else, or just something? We've all had conversations that took an unproductive turn or avoided conversations that really needed to happen. If you want to become a better communicator, Dr. Mike Bechtle has good news: the art of confident conversation is something you can develop through simple, repeatable habits. In this book, he shows you how to - embrace your temperament - overcome feelings of intimidation - choose the right words at the right time - speak up for others and yourself - and much more Say goodbye to fear, regret, and "I should (or shouldn't) have said that." Say hello to intentional, appropriate, timely conversations that get your point across even as they build relationships. This book provides mastery of the skills of confident communication in any situation.